It's a bird! It's a plane! It's my ex-boyfriend club!
I always thought that breaking up with someone was supposed to be some disasterous event that would leave me in pieces for a very long time. I figured the experience would be so traumatic that the idea of talking to or god forbid SEEING the other person would be shattering.
I am so glad I was wrong about that.
Everyone knows that I was very sad about my break up with TLMS and it didn't get easier with Mr. Incredible or The Date.
It's not that the actual act of ending relationships was easy for me - that is not what I mean. What I mean is that the after effect has not been what I expected. Instead of depressing it has been supportive, loving, friendly and uplifting.
I still talk to TLMS every week via email and sometimes via text messaging. That man cracks my ass up regularly. He's a treasure and I will even be so bold as to say that without a doubt he is the best thing that happened to me in 2005. If our relationship had gone differently - if it had ended poorly - I would have shut down the Love Department indefinitely.
Thanks to him, I know I don't really want to do that.
Mr. Incredible hasn't really gone anywhere either. He is sad that I feel the need to back off from our relationship and evaluate my long-term goals in the area of commitment, but in his sadness he still supports what I am doing. He tells me regularly that no matter what, I am and always will be loved.
That doesn't suck at all.
One of the first emails I received yesterday was from The Date. He decided to send me a message letting me know that I rock his world. That was an unexpected but very welcome message to read. Last night he phoned me to chat about some other stuff that is happening in my world and by the end of it I was laughing out loud which was a nice turn of events. My original thought was to burst out crying. He understands my thoughts and fears on dating with kids and has let me know that he isn't going anywhere. I'm free to do whatever I need to do so long as I follow his one and only instruction:
"follow your heart"
In my life there are moments of boredom, sadness, uncertainty, fear and doubt but thanks to wonderful people in my life, I have many more moments of undeniable joy, overflowing love and infinite happiness. All of the goodness in my life makes that other crap easy to forget.
There are angels everywhere, kids.
Do you know what yours look like?
I am so glad I was wrong about that.
Everyone knows that I was very sad about my break up with TLMS and it didn't get easier with Mr. Incredible or The Date.
It's not that the actual act of ending relationships was easy for me - that is not what I mean. What I mean is that the after effect has not been what I expected. Instead of depressing it has been supportive, loving, friendly and uplifting.
I still talk to TLMS every week via email and sometimes via text messaging. That man cracks my ass up regularly. He's a treasure and I will even be so bold as to say that without a doubt he is the best thing that happened to me in 2005. If our relationship had gone differently - if it had ended poorly - I would have shut down the Love Department indefinitely.
Thanks to him, I know I don't really want to do that.
Mr. Incredible hasn't really gone anywhere either. He is sad that I feel the need to back off from our relationship and evaluate my long-term goals in the area of commitment, but in his sadness he still supports what I am doing. He tells me regularly that no matter what, I am and always will be loved.
That doesn't suck at all.
One of the first emails I received yesterday was from The Date. He decided to send me a message letting me know that I rock his world. That was an unexpected but very welcome message to read. Last night he phoned me to chat about some other stuff that is happening in my world and by the end of it I was laughing out loud which was a nice turn of events. My original thought was to burst out crying. He understands my thoughts and fears on dating with kids and has let me know that he isn't going anywhere. I'm free to do whatever I need to do so long as I follow his one and only instruction:
"follow your heart"
In my life there are moments of boredom, sadness, uncertainty, fear and doubt but thanks to wonderful people in my life, I have many more moments of undeniable joy, overflowing love and infinite happiness. All of the goodness in my life makes that other crap easy to forget.
There are angels everywhere, kids.
Do you know what yours look like?
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Yes, I know what my angels look like. It's an amazing thing, isn't it?
Maria Sharapova?
Nope. But I do know what the devil looks like.
Thankfully, I divorced him in 1989. tee hee.
On relationships:
"I would never want to belong to any club that would accept me as a member"
Woody Allen - "Annie Hall"
Well, one of my angels looks suspiciously like Kathy Howe...
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