History Lesson: Part III

Him

The Date has alway been very focused on his kids and fully understood my attentiveness to my own. When others doubted my dating hiatus and claimed that I was neglecting my own needs, he fully understood that I was not neglecting anything. Quite the opposite really.

Not long after getting to know him I recognized that he was someone worthy of looking up to. If I had to name the people that have, whether intentionally or not, mentored me in my life, The Date would most definitely be on that list.

After lunch with Denise this past weekend I was thinking over my conversation with her regarding The Date. I asked myself what is it that attracts me to him.

Truly, there are many, many things about him that I find attractive but if I could only say one thing I would say that he brings me balance.

It seems that whatever it is that I need, he plugs in perfectly to meet it.

Where I have weaknesses he has strength, when I thirst for insight and perspective he offers his, when I need to talk through things he listens to what I have to say and when my Leo self needs to take center stage he bravos all my best and worst jokes. He makes both a worthy playmate and enthusiastic audience. In our friendship I have always felt like in our companionship we maintained our individuality.

If that makes any sense at all.

He is personally, professionally, emotionally and spiritually together. He is successful in more ways than money can buy. In so many ways I have used him as my role model. What kind of person do I want to be? He has so many of the traits that I hope to improve on myself.

He knows all my strengths and weaknesses and returns my calls and emails despite them all.

We share many of the same life philosophies:

Life is short.
No regrets.
Optimism makes the world go round.
Keep an attitude of gratitude.

Our priorities are the same: kids first, everything else second. They are the most important job we have. If we fail with them nothing else we do matters.

There is something magical about The Date and for years I have been trying to pinpoint what precisely it is. I have decided that not knowing is probably part of the magic. I've realized through him that true magic is seen with the heart.

I frequently marvel at all the things he does for me - all the ways he supports me, hears me and entertains me but through his attitude of gratitude I know that he appreciates me as well. Between the two of us there is a lot of mutual respect and appreciation. He once sent me an email that said nothing more than:

"Thank you for being a part of my life."

It feels really good to have someone on the planet that you can talk to, someone that gets you and when they don't get you they support you anyways. It feels just as good to know that you bring those feelings to someone else.

He is someone that will be in my life forever. In some capacity I believe I will always be connected to him in a positive, uplifting and constructive way. This is really more than a belief - it is a knowing and it is something I have known for a very long time.

I'm looking forward to seeing where this leads but I'm in no rush to get anywhere in particular. So far the journey has been enlightening and enjoyable.

"God blessed the broken road that led me straight to you." ~Rascall Flatts