Q&A with your host, Kathy Howe
Michelle asked me a question in my comments recently and I thought I would respond for everyone.
She said:
"Was The Boy a boyfriend before TLMS or is The Boy just a friend. If The Boy is just a friend and has not been tried on for size yet I might suggest (may I offer unsolicited advice?) that you guys match yourselves up. Sounds like a good one could be looming there."
I say...
Not too long ago I actually wrote a post about The Boy. Lets see if I can expand on that and answer the question more directly.
The Boy and I have known eachother nearly half my life. I've known TLMS since about August of this year. They are two different people. I think sometimes people are confused by this so I just wanted to make that really clear.
The Boy and I have suffered through marriages, deaths and divorces together. We've celebrated birthday's, babies and uhhhh...divorces together as well. Thick and thin, baby...we've been through so much a lot...together...as friends.
The Boy and I did date eachother years ago and our break up went something like this:
It was the most uneventful break-up in the history of the world. We went from friends to sleeping together to friends in the blink of an eye.
The Boy and I have a fantastic relationship but it is a relationship that is friendship, not romance. There is no attraction to one another romantically. We don't understand it, we've analyzed the hell out of it and we can't really offer up any good explanations for why it is the way it is with us.
If we wanted to be together, if we felt that way about eachother, we'd be together. But we don't. So we aren't.
It's just that simple.
Sometimes people think that The Boy is just "filler" for me until I find someone to spend the rest of my life with. Or vice versa. That could not be further from the truth. The Boy isn't going anywhere ever. It is true that he has been known to fade into the background so I can explore new relationships but he will never be sent away packing because I've "replaced" him.
He cannot be replaced.
That would be like expecting me to give up my friendship with Rella, or Denise or any of my other gal pals because I found a man.
Not gonna happen.
And as a side note, here is a perfect example of why he's one of my best friends.
Earlier today we were on the phone and out of nowhere he says, "You have this amazing energy about you - a bright aura. You are contagious. If we could bottle you we would be rich." awwwwwwwwwwww...it sure didn't suck to hear that.
I have the best best friend in the whole entire world.
So hopefully that answers your question, Michelle! Thanks for asking.
Anyone else got anything they would like to ask?
She said:
"Was The Boy a boyfriend before TLMS or is The Boy just a friend. If The Boy is just a friend and has not been tried on for size yet I might suggest (may I offer unsolicited advice?) that you guys match yourselves up. Sounds like a good one could be looming there."
I say...
Not too long ago I actually wrote a post about The Boy. Lets see if I can expand on that and answer the question more directly.
The Boy and I have known eachother nearly half my life. I've known TLMS since about August of this year. They are two different people. I think sometimes people are confused by this so I just wanted to make that really clear.
The Boy and I have suffered through marriages, deaths and divorces together. We've celebrated birthday's, babies and uhhhh...divorces together as well. Thick and thin, baby...we've been through so much a lot...together...as friends.
The Boy and I did date eachother years ago and our break up went something like this:
Him: Are you in love with me?
Her: Define love.
Him: If I asked you to marry me...that kind of love. Do you?
Her: No. Not like that. But I do love you. It's just a different love though.
Him: Yeah, me too. I can't really put my finger on why but I don't really want to be in a relationship anymore. As much as I like you, I don't like you like that.
Her: Thank god. I totally agree.
Him: But I still want us to be friends.
Her: Me too. Pass the popcorn and start the movie.
It was the most uneventful break-up in the history of the world. We went from friends to sleeping together to friends in the blink of an eye.
The Boy and I have a fantastic relationship but it is a relationship that is friendship, not romance. There is no attraction to one another romantically. We don't understand it, we've analyzed the hell out of it and we can't really offer up any good explanations for why it is the way it is with us.
If we wanted to be together, if we felt that way about eachother, we'd be together. But we don't. So we aren't.
It's just that simple.
Sometimes people think that The Boy is just "filler" for me until I find someone to spend the rest of my life with. Or vice versa. That could not be further from the truth. The Boy isn't going anywhere ever. It is true that he has been known to fade into the background so I can explore new relationships but he will never be sent away packing because I've "replaced" him.
He cannot be replaced.
That would be like expecting me to give up my friendship with Rella, or Denise or any of my other gal pals because I found a man.
Not gonna happen.
And as a side note, here is a perfect example of why he's one of my best friends.
Earlier today we were on the phone and out of nowhere he says, "You have this amazing energy about you - a bright aura. You are contagious. If we could bottle you we would be rich." awwwwwwwwwwww...it sure didn't suck to hear that.
I have the best best friend in the whole entire world.
So hopefully that answers your question, Michelle! Thanks for asking.
Anyone else got anything they would like to ask?
3 Comments:
Can't think of anything you might have left out.
Billy - The kids are doing AWESOME! They are smart and adorable and I'm not biased in the least. I'd totally tell you if they were a pain in the ass. ;)
Meeta - I love you like no other! *smooches*
Awe- Kathy! You are so mentally healthy! Oh and YIPPEE! I rated a NAME mention in your post- WOO HOO! I feel so special. I love you Kathy Howe!! I am so not worthy. :)
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